The Art of Respect

I love to hear friends quote wise sayings drilled into them by their parents and grandparents, including those I learned myself. My personal favorites are: “If you really wanted to do it, you’d find a way to do it.”  (my mother) “If it don’t come out in the wash, it’ll come out in the rinse.”…

Quick Beauty Tips: Bright Lips

For my fellow ladies of color, especially those with darker skin tones, don’t be afraid to rock a bright lip, like MAC’s best red, Ruby Woo, or funky pink Candy Yum-Yum, also from MAC. Just pair each of them with a darker lip liner, blend the liner well and then apply the color. Here are two marvelous…

Quick Beauty Tips: Moisturizer

Quick beauty tip: When applying moisturizer, be kind to your skin and gently massage the product into your face, neck and décolletage. Use upward strokes to avoid pulling the skin down (gravity will do that over time!) An even better practice – gently “press” the moisturizer into your face – it will allow the product…

The Art of An Apology

Since they were old enough to speak, my children were taught to apologize to each other if they did or said anything to hurt the other. Before you judge me, understand that I did not force them to apologize; I encouraged them to. My son, especially, will not apologize if he does not think he…

Natural Hair…Don't Care

Not only has it been a while since I’ve posted, but I have definitely not posted about natural hair for a LONG while! I am exactly 18 months natural – technically it has been longer than that, as I have not had a relaxer in my hair for over two years. But my “natural debut”…

Be Exceptional!

In line with our recent posts about deconstruction, letting go of the past, and setting goals, today’s post basically takes us to the next level of being…be exceptional. As always, I like to start with a definition. According to Merriam-Webster, ‘exceptional’ means “better than average…” My parents always encouraged my sister and I to “do our…

We Wish You a Merry Christmas!

This and That With Calandra would like to thank all our subscribers and readers for all your support throughout 2012. We wish you and your families a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and a Happy and Blessed New Year. Looking forward to a great 2013! Peace and Blessings, Calandra

A Christmas Reflection

This thought began as a Facebook status update, but soon proved too lengthy and I thought it would be better served as a quick blog post. There is nothing more peaceful than sitting in silence by the lights of the Christmas tree. I have treasured these moments annually since I was a little girl. I…